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lilguy520: so my good friend Jennie took these pictures of me...

Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:10:28 -0500

so my good friend Jennie took these pictures of me today and they were really inspiring. im so excited because, for once, i was happy with the fact that im a bigger build. im proud to be a chub. this is my life and the only one i have, so why am i going to sit here and waste time being miserable just to fit societies standards of beauty?

grrlyman: Our queer fake wedding was our excuse to dress up and...

Fri, 07 Dec 2012 20:45:00 -0500

grrlyman:

Our queer fake wedding was our excuse to dress up and make everyone we know gather in a room to fawn over us and our love. Our gorgeous friends decorated our porch; my drag mother officiated, and we had a pink zebra print cake with gold fondant bands. We saved up for two years to throw this sparkly party, and it went perfectly. We even had a costume change so we could dance the night away!

Our statements to/for each other are included below.

Maura:

When we were first dating, when it got cold that first year, you got out of the car and gave your favorite hoodie to a stranger who was cold. I love you for that. I love you because you keep dollar store umbrellas in your car to give to strangers caught in the rain. People often see your rough exterior before things like these - I love you for these unseen things & for your rough exterior.

I love you because you push the limits of decency & style every time you walk out the door. I love you because you challenge me to be more outrageous.

I love you because we’re femmes and I love you because you know how special that is.

I love you because you turn everything - from holidays to impromptu trips to New Orleans to random Tuesdays - into a celebration.

I love you because you’re adventurous.

I love you because you think, dream and love bigger than anyone else.

I love you because you’re brave & because you can be vulnerable with me.

I love you because you’re tough as shit & because you have an incredibly kind heart.

I love you because you make me think more & laugh harder & love more intensely than I thought possible.

I promise to consider you, your feelings & your happiness.

I promise not to take you for granted, to always remember what a wonder you are.

I promise that when we hear a loud noise in the middle of the night and you inevitably think it is most definitely the Zombie apocalypse I will try my best to not dismiss you immediately. Related, I promise that in the event of a zombie apocalypse I will follow whatever plan you have for our survival.

I promise to sing Hall & Oates with you, I promise to never throw away your glue guns and to try my best to always have glitter in the house.

I promise to be on your side.

I promise to play dress up with you, I promise to taste the cocktails you make up, I promise to cook epic meals with you, I promise to do photoshoots with you, I promise to have dance parties in our kitchen with you,

I promise to love you.

Enakai:

You taught me that I never have to settle, that I deserve everything sparkly and beautiful.

You’re the only person whose opinion of me matters, and you make me more compassionate, creative, and pretty in my never ending mission to impress you.

You’re the loud, trashy, gorgeous, smart and smartass girl of my dreams.

You’re my femme in shining nail polish.

You make me feel strong when I feel like I’m crumbling and I always feel safe and seen when I’m soft with you.

You fight, and your fight will always be my fight.

I will spend the rest of my life learning your mmms, your cupcake mmm, your complimentary bread basket mmm, and your hot mmm.

I promise to always keep a steady supply of bactine around, and when you fall I’ll clean the blood from your knees and palms gently and without laughing.

I will protect you from most bugs, and I’ll always be grateful when you kill spiders for me.

I look forward to being immature and old with you, making fun of young people and drinking when our doctors tell us not to.

I will fry anything for you on demand and without apology.

I will always go for you, and no matter how frightened the straight people who didn’t know who they were queer baiting are, I’ll back you up.

I will always be too much with you.

Then we held hands and promised to never wear anything our size or age appropriate, and were pronounced pervert and pervert before our family and friends.

itgetsbetteryk: Some of our handy handouts designed to help...

Wed, 24 Oct 2012 04:03:24 -0400

itgetsbetteryk:

Some of our handy handouts designed to help people learn about queer issues and identities!

person: she--

Wed, 24 Oct 2012 03:51:26 -0400

person: she--
me: it's he.
person: *condescending smile* well, on your birth certificate--
me: yeah, it also says ' 8lbs, 6 oz ' -- a lot has changed over the years

Babely to the max!

Mon, 22 Oct 2012 22:06:35 -0400

Babely to the max!

Fat People Tropes That Made Me Ashamed of My Body Growing Up

Tue, 16 Oct 2012 22:12:07 -0400

Fat People Tropes That Made Me Ashamed of My Body Growing Up:

everysmilealie:

Many ideas about fatness and people who are fat are engrained in us as children through images, movies/shows, advertisement, symbols, behaviors, and attitudes and very few of them are positive. Here are some tropes that I’ve observed and finally outlined.

The Gentle Giant

A general trope…

aunt-flow: and it shouldn’t offend you either

Sat, 13 Oct 2012 13:47:05 -0400

aunt-flow:

and it shouldn’t offend you either

I want to go to there!!!

Sat, 13 Oct 2012 13:45:57 -0400

Internation Pug Race in Berlin, Germany

Pug Gismo in action!

Pug Karl flying through the air!

I want to go to there!!!

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Wed, 26 Sep 2012 23:47:04 -0400

How many people tweeted homophobic shit today, you ask?

Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:08:41 -0400

How many people tweeted homophobic shit today, you ask?:

I often have people tell me that they don’t hear people saying “that’s so gay” and the like with any frequency…well…here is your proof, world.

Tigers are going to scratch the crap out of you if you...

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 18:03:10 -0400

Tigers are going to scratch the crap out of you if you don’t get to using some condoms/dental dams/gloves!!!

"Being fat at work can be really difficult to navigate. There is already evidence that fat people..."

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 18:02:20 -0400

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Being fat at work can be really difficult to navigate. There is already evidence that fat people get hired less often and paid less money than our thin counterparts. Once you do have a job it can be really scary to make waves – even when you are faced with things like getting worse benefits than your thin counterparts, being charged more for insurance, forced to attend company Weight Watchers meetings and more. We’ll look at some of these scenarios but first let’s start with some options on being proactive.

Obviously you shouldn’t have to deal with this. You should be hired based on your ability to do the job with whatever reasonable accommodations you need for whatever reason, and you should not have to deal with fat shaming and stigma where you work. You obviously aren’t obligated to do any of these things, and this isn’t an exhaustive list - these are just suggestions and if you don’t feel that they fit for you then skip them. It’s also completely valid to choose not to do activism at work.

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- http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2012/09/25/fat-at-work/

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Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:18:09 -0400

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Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:17:56 -0400

Why does any particular type of body ever have to be better...

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:17:41 -0400

Why does any particular type of body ever have to be *better* than any of the others?

ALL bodies are good bodies! GREAT bodies even!

Oh, Virgie. You’re a stone fox!

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:14:15 -0400

Oh, Virgie. You’re a stone fox!

The raddest of the rad. I, too, have always wondered why I...

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:12:58 -0400

The raddest of the rad.

I, too, have always wondered why I don’t have more tentacles. I would very much like to join an octo-gang with Red and swim the seven seas squirting ink at those who need a little “talking to”.

Don't Call Me Faggot

Fri, 21 Sep 2012 04:30:00 -0400

Don't Call Me Faggot:

I’m tired of being called a faggot. I’m really over fighting random dudes that are threatened by my soft face and prancing muscular jock douche body. I’m sick of hearing about my community getting shit on in a thousand different ways. But I’ve grown used to it. What I’m more concerned with is that we have created such a stockholm syndrome around ourselves, that we don’t even realize just how poorly we are still being treated. I wish everyone would remember that we have a huge fucking brawl looming around every corner. That we are not equal, but merely tolerated and objectified. And it’s not that we can’t enjoy skinny jeans and skinny ties and all sorts of flufftastic amazement. I truly adore shit talking the dude wearing toe shoes in the gym just as much as anyone else would. And I’m not ungrateful to the person who got me to stop wearing baggy camouflage cargo pants ten years ago. Believe me, I will forever be indebted to her keen eye, for she is the reason I actually get laid once in awhile. And to the people that suggest I attempt at using hair products once in awhile, you also have my sincere thanks. You too get me laid. Which helps make my world a better place). But besides helping me get drilled while simultaneously looking stylish, we are far from the end in our struggle to be recognized as humans. So whether or not as a community we slam the bar door and call the cops, or we use our god damn gay fists to protect ourselves, we should know that we still have one hell of a fight in front of us. And I hope we all can line up right next to each other just like those queers did with me the other night. While wearing tiny shorts and fanny packs.

Fat Grrrl Activism: Body policing and fat hate are related, but they are not the same

Fri, 21 Sep 2012 03:58:09 -0400

Fat Grrrl Activism: Body policing and fat hate are related, but they are not the same:

madamethursday:

I feel the constant need to remind people of this because it seems like there’s a near constant stream of non-fat people who want to horn in on fat acceptance spaces, who want to identify themselves as “fat” or say they feel “fat” or say that they are just like me because…

Disability and Sexuality Resources

Mon, 03 Sep 2012 04:52:16 -0400

Disability and Sexuality Resources :

circlesoffire:

takebacksexuality:

I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.

Disability and Sex General Links

Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex

How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re Disabled

Sexual Pleasure & the Disabled Adult

Disability and Body Image

Sex and Disability

Good Sex Positions for Disabled Sex

Let’s Get Physical

Disability and Orgasm: Your Orgasmic Potential

Practical Sex Tips for Disabled People

No Big Deal: Sex & Disability

Self-Advocates Speak Up About Sex

Sexuality and Disability Myths and Facts

Disabled and No Sexual Pleasure

Sex, Disability and the DSP: Ethically Supporting Sexual Choices

Sex and Disability: Impacts of Disability on Sex

Sexual Expression for Adults with Disabilities: The Role of Guardianship

Disability and Sexual Activity: The Mechanics of it All

Contraception for People with Disabilities

Disabled? Discovering Your Sexual Self

Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual

Talking About Sensitive Topics

Personal Relationships and People with Physical Disabilities

Physical Problems and Female Sexual Dysfunction

Talking about Disability on a Date

Lovers with Disabilities Become Liberated with Tantric Sex

My Partner is Scared to Try

Getting Assistance: Having Sex and Using Your Sex Toy

Physical Disability and Sexual Intercourse

A Sexuality Policy That Truly Supports People with Disabilities

Two Lovers With Disabilities Need Help

How to Meet, Date and “Do It” When You’re Disabled

Sex and Disability Webliography

Eli Clare - Challenging Our Differences

Sex, Disability and Young People

Sex Education for Physically Disabled Teenagers

Growing Up: A teachers’s guide to Sex and Relationships Education for Young People with Physical Disabilities

Sex and Your Child with a Disability

Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities

Sexuality Education for Children and Adolescents with Developmental Disabilities

Sexuality and Persons with Disabilities

Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know

Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents

Medications and Sex

Sexual Side Effects of Medications: How prescription and OTC medications can have sexual side effects
Effects of Medications on Female Sexual Response

Researching Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications

Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications

How To Manage Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications

Physical Sexual Side Effects of Medications

Disability and Sex Toys

Top 10 Ideas on Adapting Sex Toys

Making Sex Toys Accessible

Sex Toys and Disability

Disability and Sex Toys

Research Before Adapting Sex Toys

Accessible Sex Toys

Adapting Toys for Decreased Sensation

Adapting Toys for Increased Sensation

Fatigue and Sex Toys

Adapting Toys for Mobility and Motor Control

Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations

Adapting Sex Toys for Privacy

Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist

Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue

Sex Toys and Allergies

Fatigue and Sex

Sex and Fatigue: How Do You Stay Sexual When You Have No Energy for Sex?

Sex and Fatigue

Your Sex Drive With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Fatigue and Sex Toys

Sex, Fatigue and Depression

Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue

Multiple Sclerosis and Sex

Multiple Sclerosis & Sex

My husband has MS and doesn’t like sex anymore. Why?

My wife has MS and doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Why not and what can I do?

Multiple Sclerosis and Sexual Problems

Top 10 Sex Tips for Men with Multiple Sclerosis

Sex and Multiple Sclerosis

Arthritis and Sex

Love, Sex and Arthritis

Sex and Arthritis

Spinal Cord Injury and Sex

The ABCs of Sex After Spinal Cord Injury

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Orgasm

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Fertility, Childbirth and Contraception

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Sexual Behaviour and Activity

Best Sex Positions for Spinal Cord Injured Women

User’s Guide to the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after Spinal Cord Injury

Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Erections

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Ejaculation, Orgasm and Coitus

Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Sexual Drive and Activity

Intercourse & Pleasure With a Spinal Cord Injury

Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Men with SCI

Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Women with SCI

Cancer and Sex

Cancer and Sex: How Cancer Affects Your Sex Life

Intimacy and Sexuality for cancer patients and their partners

Diabetes and Sex

Sex and Diabetes

Diabetes and Sex: Does It Have to Doom Your Sex Life?

Sexuality and Diabetes

Erectile Dysfunction Treatments for Patients with Diabetes

Fibromyalgia and Sex

Fibromyalgia and Your Sex Life

Parkinson’s Disease and Sex

Parkinson’s Disease and Your Sex Drive

Parkinson’s Disease and Sex

ALS / Lou Gehrig’s Disease and Sex

ALS & Your Sex Life

Learning Disabilities and Sex

Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities

Sex and Learning Disabilities

Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know

Ostomy and Sex

Sex and the Person with an Ostomy

Continence and Sex

Continence and Sex

Cystic Fibrosis and Sex

Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents

Sexuality, Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adults

Back Pain and Sex

Sex Tips for Back Pain Sufferers

Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back

Augmentative and Alternative Communication and Sex

Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who Use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)

Sexual Health Education for AAC Users - Speak Up Findings

Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)

Sexual Health: Knowledge and Skills for People who Use AAC

Sexual Health Issues for People who Use AAC

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lilguy520: so my good friend Jennie took these pictures of me...

grrlyman: Our queer fake wedding was our excuse to dress up and...

itgetsbetteryk: Some of our handy handouts designed to help...

person: she--

Babely to the max!

Fat People Tropes That Made Me Ashamed of My Body Growing Up

aunt-flow: and it shouldn’t offend you either

I want to go to there!!!

Photo

How many people tweeted homophobic shit today, you ask?

Tigers are going to scratch the crap out of you if you...

"Being fat at work can be really difficult to navigate. There is already evidence that fat people..."

Photo

Photo

Why does any particular type of body ever have to be *better*...

Oh, Virgie. You’re a stone fox!

The raddest of the rad. I, too, have always wondered why I...

Don't Call Me Faggot

Fat Grrrl Activism: Body policing and fat hate are related, but they are not the same

Disability and Sexuality Resources

Why does any particular type of body ever have to be better...